When most men text a girl they like, they basically do it wrong. If you have ever been in the position of never hearing from a girl with whom you have exchanged a few texts, you probably committed one or several of the following mistakes:
Mistake 1: Responses don't necessarily mean attraction
Before a first date, you and the girl won't have much of a connection. It's OK to want to get to know her, but you really should do that face to face, not in long, inconclusive texts that she may be answering just to be polite. The answers to "How are you enjoying the rain?" are hardly relevant and the text itself seems to simply beg an answer. And that is unattractive and not what you want to achieve with your texts.
Mistake 2: Lacking style
Today, information is everything and it's easier than before to convey. We have so many means of communication that perform so fast, you can convey any message you want to anyone. And that is what makes it tricky. That girl probably gets dozens of messages a day, from people you don't even want to consider. So, in order to not get lost in the sea of people she is in touch with, you need something to set you apart. You need her to be able to identify one of your texts from ten others. So think about what words, phrases and emoticons set you apart and use them.
Mistake 3: No Fun
Another thing that can set you apart from everyone else is conveying fun. If you manage to get her out of the boredom of the day, you will certainly win points. What's more, she'll be anxious to go out with you, because she will know you can make her enjoy herself. Too often, creating a certain emotion in a woman is underrated. But that is how women work: on emotions. So, if you keep that in mind you will have another advantage on all the other (possible) guys.
Mistake 4: Long Conversations
A text conversation is not the same as an actual conversation. In a text you should only put the essential information, cut the formalities and jump straight into an interesting topic. The point of text messaging is not to get to know each other. The point is to reveal just enough to get the other person curious and interested to find out the rest about you in person. So, don't try to impress a girl with a long, dry, logical text. She will most likely not fall for it. Because most girls find logic the opposite of attraction. Remember what I said: spark her curiosity gradually and reveal the rest in person. After a few texts, you should suggest a meet-up
Mistake 1: Responses don't necessarily mean attraction
Before a first date, you and the girl won't have much of a connection. It's OK to want to get to know her, but you really should do that face to face, not in long, inconclusive texts that she may be answering just to be polite. The answers to "How are you enjoying the rain?" are hardly relevant and the text itself seems to simply beg an answer. And that is unattractive and not what you want to achieve with your texts.
Mistake 2: Lacking style
Today, information is everything and it's easier than before to convey. We have so many means of communication that perform so fast, you can convey any message you want to anyone. And that is what makes it tricky. That girl probably gets dozens of messages a day, from people you don't even want to consider. So, in order to not get lost in the sea of people she is in touch with, you need something to set you apart. You need her to be able to identify one of your texts from ten others. So think about what words, phrases and emoticons set you apart and use them.
Mistake 3: No Fun
Another thing that can set you apart from everyone else is conveying fun. If you manage to get her out of the boredom of the day, you will certainly win points. What's more, she'll be anxious to go out with you, because she will know you can make her enjoy herself. Too often, creating a certain emotion in a woman is underrated. But that is how women work: on emotions. So, if you keep that in mind you will have another advantage on all the other (possible) guys.
Mistake 4: Long Conversations
A text conversation is not the same as an actual conversation. In a text you should only put the essential information, cut the formalities and jump straight into an interesting topic. The point of text messaging is not to get to know each other. The point is to reveal just enough to get the other person curious and interested to find out the rest about you in person. So, don't try to impress a girl with a long, dry, logical text. She will most likely not fall for it. Because most girls find logic the opposite of attraction. Remember what I said: spark her curiosity gradually and reveal the rest in person. After a few texts, you should suggest a meet-up
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